A Different Light

After so many times that I’ve been to broken heartland and back, I would like to impart what I’ve learned from my painful experiences. I can say now that I have a completely different perspective about dating and courtship. I’ve realized that what right do we really have to claim someone as our own if we are still not yet ready to commit ourselves wholly to that person? And besides playing the field has a major setback. What if you already want to raise the level of your relationship a notch higher but the other one thinks that it’s not a good idea or vise versa? Sometimes you just end up hurting the person if not hurting yourself because you don’t know what you really want. And how sure are you that what you feel right now will still be the same feeling tomorrow? You can never guarantee that even to yourself because you’ll agree with me on this when I say “you cannot always trust what you feel.”

Feelings aren’t always right. We cannot let our hearts do the thinking and decision making all the time, there’s a reason why the head was placed above the heart, go figure. Though I understand that it does feel so well damn good to be swept off your feet, to be impulsive, to lose yourself in the heat of the moment but after the adrenaline rush, what’s left of us to hold on to, nothing right? Of course who wouldn’t want to have someone care for you and be with you whenever you feel lonely but do you think that you are doing this person justice if that’s the only reason that you want him/her to be around? If you could not promise this person a lifetime, why steal the opportunities that would make him/her a better person? Let them go and grow as an individual first. Let them reach for their dreams and achieve it. There are few things that are important in life and sometimes you can only figure it out best alone. Don’t ask them to stay just because you think that they can complete you, you have to be complete on your own before you can learn how to give yourself completely.

In love or just in love with the idea? There are times in our lives that we feel so alone that we want to just be with anyone to ease our lonesomeness. And I mean the real sense of the word ANYONE. Meaning it doesn’t matter who this person is as long as he or she seems to be giving you a hell of good time its enough already. This is a very dangerous game that you are playing here. Not even bothering to know who you are going with, he/she could be a nut case you know. Never ever settle for “this would do for now”, give yourself more credit than that and be with someone (not anyone) that you truly deserve.

Do you believe when I say that prayer is still the most powerful tool in finding your one true love? Let God take care of the writing of your love story, you don’t need to tell Him when and how exactly it should begin and end because He knows who and what’s best for you. You don’t need to rush into anything; you cannot make things happen if it’s still not bound to happen yet. Remember that it will all happen in God’s time and not yours. There’s a time for everything, though its passé already it still holds true when it comes to the natural timing of things. They say that good and better things come to those who wait, so be patient. God is preparing someone for you, believe you me.

True love waits. I believe that if you are really meant for each other, God would bring the two of you together again even if you have to be apart for awhile. If you are to find someone that you’re blessed to spend every wake less and wakeful of your life with then you will. So why hurry? Why jump into something that you are still not sure of? Why dare to have your eyes closed when plunging into something when you could see things more clearly with your eyes wide open? Is it because of the excitement, the unpredictability and spontaneity of the moment? And then what happens after the thrill dwindles down? There’s another broken heart lying around and waiting to be picked up again. Is that what you really want, to make your promise of forever last for only a day because to start with you don’t really believe in it? Why build dreams together if you are still not sure what are yours? Know your dreams and aspirations first then do something to make it real. Everything does not end in planning. You may have plans but if you don’t have the guts to do something about it then reaching your dreams seem impossible. Why plan the future too soon if you are still not secure with the present? Build a strong foundation today so come tomorrow, you need not worry about anything else anymore. Why give bits and pieces of your heart if you can give it in whole to the person that is meant for you? Give your heart to only one; selflessly, completely and wholeheartedly.

Don’t engage in a relationship just because “it feels good” make sure that “it is good” for you as well. Don’t let what “feels right” win over “what is right.” Let your mind speak and heed it too. Don’t look for love for it will find you.

I’m telling you my friend, you are not the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. Maybe you think you are but you are not, God is. Just be His loyal and obedient shipmate. Let Him hold the wheel for a change and love will come your way.